Ms. Pamela Mojekwu approved this presentation which addresses her recent postings with regards to her now ‘fake proposal and wedding’ in Nigeria.
I have known my dear friend, Pamela Mojekwu since 1986. And I have the privilege of being a trusted friend and brother; hence these-
Pamela apologizes formally to all her Facebook readers/friends that may have felt deceived by her reactions to her heart break by Comrade Anthony, the Nigerian she met online and reacquainted with through Facebook and fell in love with: felt she had found a true lifetime companion but discovered strangely, that just like us all that wished her well, she had been manipulated, lied to, exploited and abused by this fake Comrade. She is a victim and takes responsibility for not being cautious and careful enough. Anthony came into her life when she was trying to rise from the tragedies of life: she was vulnerable. She just wanted calmness and normalcy to her raging soul when Anthony came along.
About four years ago, Pamela lost her husband in Chicago: that would be the beginning of uncertainties of life. Two years after, on a humid July Sunday, Pamela and her beautiful daughter, Tyna attended a Nigerian party. She had worked all day, got off and decided to enjoy the rest of the weekend with Tyna: Tyna had battled sickle cell throughout her life: most of her adult years were spent at the Emergency room of the hospital. Pamela lived these years with her only daughter in the hospital, In one of their visits to the hospital, Tyna went into coma and was placed on life support at the ICU: miraculously she came off comatose few days later: I could still feel the telephone conversation I had with Pam as she shared the news with me.
So on this summer early morning, after the party, Pam and Tyna began a journey home. It would be the last time mother and child would ride together: Pam swerved into a ditch and crashed. It was a fatal accident. Her only daughter that beat death few months ago would not survive the wreck. She died at the scene of the accident. Pamela sustained serious brain injuries and vocal chord damage:
Few months after Tynas death, the City of Chicago charged her with vehicular homicide: it alleged Pam was responsible for Tynas death. She was thrown into jail. She didn’t care. Life had no meaning to her: she barely remembered anything.
Through rehabilitations and treatments, we began to get our Pam back. Her healing process is gradual. These were the scars of life: the emotional traumas and what she shared with Anthony during initial telephone conversations. Anthony pretended to be the trusted friend she needed. Yes: he came to her at the right time. Pam was emotionally troubled: and that is understandable. Who would go through losing a husband, a daughter in an accident, sustaining brain injuries and being locked up for the death of your daughter and not be an emotional wreck? She needed help. She didn’t know how to handle the turbulence of her life: Anthony thru long distance; manipulated her by faking care: his words became the healing psalms for Pam. He was effective, rouging the circumstance by pretending to listen to her pains and giving her attention, affection and promises until he financially, emotionally and humanly defrauded her. Pam continues to grieve: she had hoped that by marrying Anthony she would begin a new life of happiness. All she wanted was to be loved and happy again before her end time on earth. She deserved to be happy but not with Anthony.
Pamela’s initial reaction to the scattering comments and inquiries was to distance her emotions from the nonsense. Please understand. She was seeking help on how to recover from this shock. I urge you to forgive her; we are all Anthony’s victim. But we can also collectively go after Anthony so no other woman would be added to his statistics. Pamela is sincerely hurt that she had disrespected and unknowingly deceived her friends and fans because of this thing called love. We all wish the best for her: I remained silent through these ordeals. I had severally written her privately, worried that the marriage was suspect; she would react by deleting me from her page. But I never gave up on her: And i won’t give up on her now. I would call and asked her to reinstate me after she simmers down. Pam was there for me when my life’s drama played out as I blazed the emotional torture and torment of separation and divorce. Please don’t give up on her.
I advised her that this sad event would be a platform to tell her story. She couldn’t do it. Her credibility and reputation are rubbished by Anthony. I am pleading we support her and help end Anthony’s caravan of deceits. Thank you for this privilege.
Molokwu is a US-based writer, journalist and radio host.